Dun dun dun.....it's that time of year again. If you're in a relationship, then congrats on you doing those oh so cute activities filled with flowers, balloons, and cute Instagram post. Just remember ladies: make sure your man doesn't only show his love for you on this day, and neglect the remaining 364 other days of the year. I won't dive into that subject at this point and time, but nonetheless enjoy!
Now.......for my singles out there......
First of all breathe! It's going to be okay. I promise you. Want to look at this day in a new perspective? Well, in all honesty, I truly believe this holiday was created for the sole purpose for big corporations to make tons & tons of money. Companies know how important feeling loved is for humans, especially during this time in the world. I highly doubt this day was meant for you to "feel" special let alone receive true love.
Don't sweat it!
Now, if that doesn't help ease the pain for this day, let me tell you my experiences I've had that made me realize 1). Its just another day and 2). You can still celebrate this day single and it mean more.
As a young girl I always dreamt of getting a big bouquet of red roses, chocolate candies galore, a candle-lit dinner overlooking the ocean, and to be so in love with the person I was with. Well, I've gotten most of those things but, with one major twist: I, along with about 3 others, got the SAME things! Yup, the relationship I was in at the time was filled with many women beyond just me. At the time this happened, I didn't see the clues that I might be in some love triangle. But, like most things in life, the truth quickly came smacking me right in the face and I found out. I was devastated! And this didn't happen for just one year. It happened every single year I was in this relationship. Talk about being played.
I'll be honest, after these incidents, I hated this holiday, and I mean it was a deep hate. But, since I've really worked on my relationship with God, it's allowed me to heal and look at this holiday in a completely different light. The biggest lesson, besides that it's honestly just another date on the calendar, is this:
Who say's someone else has to show me how much they love me? Why don't I show myself some love.
Think about it, why do we put our entire worth into the hands of others? It's wonderful if you have someone who shows you love, and not just on this day. It's also okay to desire it too. However, if you don't currently have someone in your life showing you appreciation, then show yourself some appreciation.
Below are a few tips I suggest for those who want to still celebrate this day and feel special, even though you might not have someone who is worth showing it to you:
1). Schedule a spa day: I lov